Tuesday, July 29, 2008

He is not just anyone, He's my friend.....

God is not a man, so he does not lie.
He is not human, so he does not change his mind.
Has he ever spoken and failed to act?
Has he ever promised and not carried it through?



His established word must come to pass...

Friday, July 25, 2008

And the beat goes on

Happenings my good people...




Yesterday DH got himself a car. Am delighted, God has continued to push us up. These days am finding pleasure in the simplest things of life. He also got promoted and has been put on a development plan that would involve so much jetting around ( doubt i am excited about the jetting around part).




I am still in my job, not going anywhere, Everyone thinks its a joke.




And my birthday was good, i had the most amazing time. And got a lovely present.




I recently regained contact with one of my buddies from way back, and its just been amazing sharing our testimoneies and just chatting. We're hooking up in 2 weeks when she would be passing through Lagos, am indeed excited.




My lil sis is back in Lagos, got redeployed from Sokoto praise God (as in i have company at home).




I lost my dear cousin, i dont know why it had to be so soon, but God knows best and we'd go for the burial soon.It was a sad time, but as they say time is indeed a great healer.





Nothing yet on the baby scene but i have as advised removed it from my mind and i trust soon it'd happen.





One of my dearest people, who i suspect i offended is getting married soon, am delighted.





And i have successfully been living a healthy lifestyle, eating right and exercising right. Driniking my 8 glasses of water everyday.




What else, hope am not boring.




God has been faithful, still is and always will be... i have so much to be thankful for.

Thursday, June 26, 2008

Anyway by Kent Keith

I remember promising you guys that i would post some poems, poems i read when i was school. And i have found on the internet. Poems with words that encourage! the world is full of negativism and discouragement. Enjoy!




The verses below reportedly were engraved on the wall of Mother Teresa's home for children in Calcutta, and are widely attributed to her. However, according to The New York Times, the verses actually were written by 19-year-old Kent Keith in a motivation booklet for high school counselors published while he was a student at Harvard in 1968.



People are often unreasonable, Illogical,

and self-centered;

Forgive them anyway.



If you are kind, people may accuse you

of selfish, ulterior motives;

Be kind anyway.



If you are successful,You will win some

false friends and some true enemies;

Succeed anyway.



If you are honest and frank,

people may cheat you;

Be honest and frank anyway.



What you spend years building,

someone could destroy overnight;

Build anyway.



If you find serenity and happiness,

they may be jealous;

Be happy anyway.



The good you do today,

people will often forget tomorrow;

Do good anyway.



Give the world the best you have,

and it may never be enough;

Give the world the best you have anyway.



You see, in the final analysis,

it is between you and God;

It was never between you and them anyway.




The last line should remind us that at the end of the day it is what God thinks about you that matters the most. What people think, say or believe about us is not important. We must keep on doing good and all the things mentioned in the poem and even more. We must believe the report of the lord and not that of any man.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Loved ones

Someone sent me this ....




I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.


He said, "Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you."


We were very polite, this stranger and I. We went on our way and we said goodbye.


But at home and with loved ones a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.


Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.


When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.


He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.


While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,


"While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family, loved ones and true friends you love, you seem to abuse.


Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.


Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.


He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."


By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.


I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.


"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"
He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the t ree.


I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."


I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway."


I said, "Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."




FAMILY
Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company
that we are working for could easily replace us in
a matter of days.
But the family and loved ones we left behind will feel the loss
for the rest of their lives.


And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more
into work than into our own family,
an unwise investment indeed,
don't you think?
So what is behind the story?


Search yourself you will realise.


I lost my cousin this past weekend and suddenly things and acts that used to matter to me, that used to hurt so bad, that used to sting, dont really matter anymore.

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

So i unleashed

My darlings in blogsville, for the first time in ages i unleashed .....





I hate to have to unleash my dragon at all (cos i can be a dragon or lion lol)and then cos i appear to be a "sweet" little lady without issues or stress. You know what they say about people who are always happy and laughing and people who always smile. Anyway i am a blessed woman and life is still beautiful.




Just that the whole rubbish (am begining to see) in my office is just rubbish. lol am venting. Some rubbish person even asked me if the office is my house when i was in the middle of my fume and silent battle for my right. lol. She doesnt know any better i guess. I hate the fact that my office keeps employing people without making proper provisions for them. How can it be too much to ask for a condusive (according to the standards of my crap office) work area. When did it be become right to be treated with no respect?






Now shes kidding and asking for my DH's number (i guess she wants to hail him) lol she's silly. Am sure ur wondering what am on about my peps. My office reminds me of life in diaspora. Where u come from being a "king in your country" and then you get there and ur treated like what. How can anyone at all have the right to just get up and swap tables (am not hating the player here, i have nothing against the player, just the game). Gimme a tiny table to sit and work cos am the new person meanwhile i came here yesterday and sat on a normal sized table. Thats rubbish. In my hay days i would have walked. lol. Its crazy man. Theres a lot to talk about about my office and its politics but like i said a certain team member of mine has found my blog. And i love my job.





Anyway i have finished my vent and life is still beautiful, no matter! I stand to be corrected but i'll rather get it all out of my chest and move on than pretend to be civil and be unhappy, cant work effectively that way and yes I CAME HERE TO WORK!!!!! I still love my job, co-workers, team members and bosses.





All right folks... i rest my case.

Friday, May 30, 2008

TAILOR - B WARE

My tailor has just upset me. Been looking forward to my co-workers wedding happening tomorrow, and been planning how for the first time i would wear a scarf (gele).




Sent the material to a tailor very far away from me, just to look "be spoke" but she has finished me. O my dayzzz if i had known i would have stuck to my local tailor near my house (we'd go back and forth 5 times and i will still look like a carpenter hammered the material together lol.) This woman made my dress so short its unbelivable and the material now she claims is finished.
Tiny dress with heels. Na wa ooo.



Shes gone to the market to buy tafeta watever so i guess i will look like patch patch work tomorrow,Seeing that the material is yellow, blue ad small pale purple, the scarf is pale purple and shes getting GOLD material. ie if she can even deliver b4 i go home at 6.30pm. Am tired.I guess i might just wear another number or 4get the wedding. THIS COULD BE A SIGN! After wasting my money and time.



Anyway on a lighter and better note how are you guys. Whats planned for the weekend? Am also being a god mum on sunday, thats something am looking forward too. My lovely angel god daughter will be three months on the day. Am thrilled. Yesterday I got her a tiny bikini that her mum will keep till shes able to play in water or swim. I will look for something appropriate and buy for sunday. I will make it a point of duty to visit her every month. Yeah now her mum has an excuse to see me in her house. Am sure its planned seeing i'm always home just chilling these dys.




Not much drama happening right now. Am excited for a certain somebody and thinking of her makes me very happy these days.

Alright folks have a good weekend.

Friday, May 23, 2008

Caught in the act

Ok so a certain madam (you know yourself) has found my blog. So no work ranting here because she is my colleague and team member!




Work's been going well peps, i think am fitting in well. I hear from the grape vine about office politics here though. You know me i dont excatly know these things. Am a small town girl not used to the Eko competition and all the hassle. So anyone with tips or advice can throw it.




DH and what i read from the internet says the trick is to just be yourself.



I decided to congratulate my darling Nyemoni, another wonderful addittion to her family. Will blog about intresting stuff hopefully soon.

Monday, May 5, 2008

The pursuit of happyness

This weekend i saw this lovely movie (the title of my post). The one Will Smith and his son stared in. The suffering in the movie was meant to be much and i kept thinking to myself, why wouldnt the father (Will Smith) just get a cleaning job or a job in Mcdonalds (its always easy and available). I kept shouting and getting angry that " a man's got to do what he's got to do". Things were so hard that the son's daycare taught him to spell Happiness as "happyness". They couldnt afford a proper day care or neighbourhood. To top it all up wife left. I didnt even blame her cos her husband frustrated her. He would never be there to look after the son so she can go do her 2nd job. And he wasn't bringing money home after depriving her of going out to work.i still think she should have stood by her man though cos if they were together for the 6 months the guy was an intern, things would have been easier.



Anyway there was a lesson in that movie for me. Perseverance, to know what you want, believe in it and pursue it with all you have. If that guy had done what the ordinary man would do, ie get a cleaning job or whatever just to go by. He probably would have gotten comfortable and limited himself.







In the end of the movie the guy became a stock broker, he went on to open his own business etc etc.


It is important for for us to hold on, even when it seems things arent going the way we hope. Sometimes i look back at myself just 3 years ago. With no place to call my own and a low down paying job. Fighting to go back to a country i loved and still love so much, Limiting myself and playing God. And i see how far i have come, i know God has always prepared a place for me, but i was too impatient to hold on.



The message is simple HOLD ON!

Friday, April 18, 2008

See Me see oo

A certain lady lets call her MIMI came to see me today. She has always been one of those terriorist kind of ladies that you just come in contact with thanks to marriage.





I was on my own minding my business when she gave me some hot gist about a certain friend of mine and a certain man in Mimi's life. I nodded along all through the "hot" gist which is too long for me to give u guys o. Although the certain friend had given me her version earlier on. It got to a point i just said o Mimi i thought you and the certain guy were through wen my certain friend dated him. Finish i was in. The certain man is Mimis Hubby o...




Day 7 maybe




I send certain friend a mail as i normally do to wish her a good week ahead. Certain friend repiles me warning that i stay away from her and that am horrible. I call her up and she explains that Mimis hubby had called her to say Mimi had broken everything in their home, T.v etc and destroied his windscreen and phone. And that i told Mimi that my certain friend dated and is still dating him.




Some how my certain friend hears me out and believes my side of the story so we carry on being friends, this time me very very careful with Mimi.




Some months later




Mimi the bully sees me and my certain friend and my dh, hanging out with her hubby and some friends. Mimi and her sister (also hanging out there with us )are obviously pissed and treat us so badly b4 they finally leave with mimi's hubbys phone.



Then Mimi stops picking my calls, stops talking to me etc..... God knows i called Mimi over 15 times. a mutual friend advises i stay away from the woman she obviously thinks a Kel is pushing her certain friend on her hubby.


All this happened between last year and the previous year b4 that.



Last month Mimi calls me up to say she heard i got a new job and blah blah blah... and that she hasnt heard my gist that i must be sooooo happy with life. hummmm i get scared o, lips sealed i just smile through out the converstaion. I never called back.

She calls me today and wants to see me. I sit in and laugh with her. Does this mean we are now friends? or what?



Guys what do you reckon, cos me i dont want trobule o. Cos my life has been beautiful. Hope this isnt too boring.


Have a great weekend you all.

Monday, April 14, 2008

And am so Back

Hey bloggers

Long time no hear, write read etc.


Annon. lol you got me writing. And no not pregnant yet, but yep so much other stuff has happened. Thanks. I have now put that aspect of my life in Gods hands. Cos i have learnt that there are so many other aspects apart from looking for a child. Theres family, there's career, there's the fufilment from doing good, helping others. So letting other areas die while pursuing one area is wrong. So lets say am enjoying my now, until my little tots come.


I am right now at a high point in my life. I got tired of blogging cos i was fed up of complaining. I hated to only write negative stuff so as my peps would say i took a hiatus, but am back now. And with so much energy you wont believe it.

Ok here are the happenings so far;

- Yours trully can now DRIVE... Yes DRIVE!

- Yours trully has gotten another new job! this time i am home.i am loving it and its just as challening as i wanted. So no more confusion, no more bag selling (but wen am on holiday i can still buy for my peps, as an ibo chic lol). Anyway Its the job i wanted 5 years ago, but it has come for my now and am thankful to my God. So more job hunting, no more complaining. Financial freedom et all.......... yay!(hint, its one of the magic circle law firm's in Lagos).

- Yours trully is maintenaing her healthy life style . You dont want to know what went down this weekend, i will blog about it soon. Just remind me of Makis and i will give u guys the gist.

Yours trully has won the battle of the tonuge.........


Ok thats all i can think of for now.


But in all i am so greatful to God, cos he constantly reminds me that i am moving forward.



He is teaching me to be patient and in His time he is making all beautiful.




I missed you guys, how's everyone, am rushing to do some blogs rounds so i can get back into work. YES i can finally say I LOVE MY JOB! (Sis beee finally!)



Peace

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

The determined me

Hey Blogsville,



A place to talk and people listen.... I'm sure i have gone on and on, here and in real life on how my arms are fat, my tummy is fatter and blah blah blah............




Ok i went to a party this past weekend (my weekend was good for me cos i finally ventured out to make/ visit my new friends), and some people just started to scream that i was getting rounder and all. I never exactly thought so before now because my clothes still fit and i have been feeling as wonderful as usual.



Ok once again i am on a mission - this time not diet o. Life style plan/ life style change, and its day 3. My tummy has gone down already. I caught DH seriously looking at me (all them stolen glances). and people at work have started to notice.


This time am determined cos:


Am doing it for me.

Am eating healthy and nice food, i dont feel deprived;

And i must fit into my size 12 clothes again ... yes i still have them.



Ok my dear Blog fam i know i can be a bore but will keep u updated on this one.


Here is a tip for fresh/ revitalised facial skin.



Body shop Vitamin C skin Boost. It's great trust me............... not marketing o, just looking out for u guys. (Orders Orders!!! winks).




Have a great week for the rest of the week.

Monday, February 18, 2008

The Body Shop

The Body Shop is a global retailer of personal care products. The company is committed to product and retail innovation and excellence as well as the pursuit of positive social and environmental change. The core values of The Body Shop are:


Against Animal Testing
Activate Self Esteem
Strengthen Our Community
Protect Our Planet
Defend Human Rights

Am looking into becoming a consultant. I know some of you bloggers already know about body shop. I will be taking orders for now and hopefully go for the training as soon as i have an opportunity to go to the UK.

Bring ur orders on friends..... am in LAGOS! I wish myself luck, and no i havent given up my bag business, i just havent got any new ones yet.

All in a bid to find more me time.

Have a great week folks.

I will be putting up more body shop info from time to time. wish me luck.

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Valentine Blues

Have a lovely Valentines day my people.


I got my dh a nice shirt that cost me so much (things in Nigeria are so over priced).
So when i thought he didnt get me anything i was so vexxed this morning.......
DH had put some lovely stuff for me on the table. It was meant to be a surprise... am terrible with surprises....



Long and short i was embrassed that i had gotten so angry.........


Moral - its best to wait or be patient.....


Ermm bloggers its been so long, my life has taken a different twist. New job, new hours, just a totla shift. Most times am too tired to even clean my house.



The experience is paying off though so hopefully in a few months or years i will have enough experience to move on and yes more time for me and for blogging.



Am still here though.



Have a great valentine and remember today is all about you and yours.

Monday, January 7, 2008

Happy New Year. And the Rules of Life

Happy New Year my people!!! my resolutions am sure ur intrested in
are to be good, speak well and eat well......... enjoy the rules below



cherie carter-scott's rules of life


(Carter Scott references this quotation:) "Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood." (Helen Keller)

Rule One - You will receive a body. Whether you love it or hate it, it's yours for life, so accept it. What counts is what's inside.

Rule Two - You will be presented with lessons. Life is a constant learning experience, which every day provides opportunities for you to learn more. These lessons specific to you, and learning them 'is the key to discovering and fulfilling the meaning and relevance of your own life'.

Rule Three - There are no mistakes, only lessons. Your development towards wisdom is a process of experimentation, trial and error, so it's inevitable things will not always go to plan or turn out how you'd want. Compassion is the remedy for harsh judgement - of ourselves and others. Forgiveness is not only divine - it's also 'the act of erasing an emotional debt'. Behaving ethically, with integrity, and with humour - especially the ability to laugh at yourself and your own mishaps - are central to the perspective that 'mistakes' are simply lessons we must learn.

Rule Four - The lesson is repeated until learned. Lessons repeat until learned. What manifest as problems and challenges, irritations and frustrations are more lessons - they will repeat until you see them as such and learn from them. Your own awareness and your ability to change are requisites of executing this rule. Also fundamental is the acceptance that you are not a victim of fate or circumstance - 'causality' must be acknowledged; that is to say: things happen to you because of how you are and what you do. To blame anyone or anything else for your misfortunes is an escape and a denial; you yourself are responsible for you, and what happens to you. Patience is required - change doesn't happen overnight, so give change time to happen.

Rule Five - Learning does not end. While you are alive there are always lessons to be learned. Surrender to the 'rhythm of life', don't struggle against it. Commit to the process of constant learning and change - be humble enough to always acknowledge your own weaknesses, and be flexible enough to adapt from what you may be accustomed to, because rigidity will deny you the freedom of new possibilities.

Rule Six - "There" is no better than "here". The other side of the hill may be greener than your own, but being there is not the key to endless happiness. Be grateful for and enjoy what you have, and where you are on your journey. Appreciate the abundance of what's good in your life, rather than measure and amass things that do not actually lead to happiness. Living in the present helps you attain peace.

Rule Seven - Others are only mirrors of you. You love or hate something about another person according to what love or hate about yourself. Be tolerant; accept others as they are, and strive for clarity of self-awareness; strive to truly understand and have an objective perception of your own self, your thoughts and feelings. Negative experiences are opportunities to heal the wounds that you carry. Support others, and by doing so you support yourself. Where you are unable to support others it is a sign that you are not adequately attending to your own needs.

Rule Eight - What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. Take responsibility for yourself. Learn to let go when you cannot change things. Don't get angry about things - bitter memories clutter your mind. Courage resides in all of us - use it when you need to do what's right for you. We all possess a strong natural power and adventurous spirit, which you should draw on to embrace what lies ahead.

Rule Nine - Your answers lie inside of you. Trust your instincts and your innermost feelings, whether you hear them as a little voice or a flash of inspiration. Listen to feelings as well as sounds. Look, listen, and trust. Draw on your natural inspiration.

Rule Ten - You will forget all this at birth. We are all born with all of these capabilities - our early experiences lead us into a physical world, away from our spiritual selves, so that we become doubtful, cynical and lacking belief and confidence. The ten Rules are not commandments, they are universal truths that apply to us all. When you lose your way, call upon them. Have faith in the strength of your spirit. Aspire to be wise - wisdom the ultimate path of your life, and it knows no limits other than those you impose on yourself.



This summary is merely a brief outline and simply does not do the book justice, nor the wisdom within it.