Happenings

Been making cold calls, calling firms to speak to their practice managers and i have gotten my c.v into the hands of many. The last man i called a partner of high reputation in Nigeria, i met at a conference earlier on in the year, (i have done 2 tests in that firm and 2 interviews, they will think am a die hard) anyway my c.v is in his inbox, nice old man, he has promised that it's going to be good.

Because i know if i get a "busier" job i wont feel too redundant and therefore wont feel so bad anymore (i hope).

DH travelled yesterday, so hopefully when he gets back i'll be slimmer, happier and ready to start cooking him nice meals again. Did i mention that because i have been sad/ bored i havent been cooking anything special. I made a big pot of stew and small soup and we have been doing yam, rice, pasta and stew over and over again. Am a good wife but i guess i had reached my boiling point. Please i have noted don't worry or chill advice i have heard enough already, thanks. Am just trying to write thats all.

And DH would be refreshed and bring back lots of pressies as always. Awww i missed him yesterday night already, it's funny how you get used to lieing next to someone everyday of your life. But on a lighter note there shall be no form of cooking by me for 2 weeks, am on home duties vacation wow! And lets hope the weight goes off.

Am off to hang out with my mother in-law on friday, that's the burial date, tanx to me listening to advice for once. So hopefully i'll come back refreshed and ready to start work. I am seriously thinking of resigning, seriously. Cos am of the school that believes that no one deserves to be unhappy and i cut off things that make me that way.

Anyway am skipping work tomorrow, i don't care if am the last man standing, that's just not my business anymore. As a christian i feel guilty that i use my firms resources to job hunt everyday. So lets say am staying away and that's the only thing i feel guilty about anyway.

I will come back with jist from the ancient city am visiting, for now wish me well.

Recently i have just been feeling my life is gradually becoming a boring circle. I keep telling my self things like i will go out more, i will get a better job so i can spend more on myself, take myself out etc, I will try to be a better daughter, sister, friend, even though all my friends and family relationships are now officially on the phone or the internet. I'm wondering is it just me?

Does anyone have ideas of things people can do on their own in Lagos, that obviously wouldn't require too much money being spent, or too much drama. Am gradually evolving and I DON'T LIKE IT.

Have a good weekend guys, mine would be typical - go to the gym and food shopping on Saturday, come home and cook the food. I haven't decided if i am loosening my hair or not. Then Sunday after church go swimming and come back home to watch T.V - What a bore. I got home yesterday to meet my lil sister sobbing, hope we dry people haven't rubbed off on the poor girl. She is turning more and more into what i am. Someone should tell her when i was her age i was excited, couldn't care and had lots of fun with my friends who are all evolving right now too. I always think of how it was for me when i stayed with SB we had so much fun and we gisted and gisted, we were just happy to be together, we hailed each other, we went out and did stuff, we were excited together sometimes too. Maybe the same stuff excited us. Am tired generally maybe i should take the poor girl to go see a movie, but she says that's so predictable. Those days even the food SB used to make was something i wanted to rush home to. I don't know maybe we're different my lil sis and i. Maybe the smallest things excite me.

I am generally bored and wonder how she will feel. Somebody help me already!

Witches huh

This past weekend! Am driving to the club alone! am in the gym for over 1 hour! No attacks! Am Floating and kicking my legs in water, my tummy is getting flatter. we get a buyer for our scrappy ride, I never thought any one will buy it! Oh my word i get an invitation for an interview today. Wow, am soaring!

DH is fine, thanks for all the messages, he is comforted with the knowledge that his darling sis is resting in a better place. The burial would be at the end of the month.

OK i watched and watched Tyra's show this weekend . I wonder of all things to talk about of course after Trump and how cheap she (Tyra) claims to be. How come she's always claiming to be cheap. She claims her clothes and shoes are cheap. But we go to the same stores and don't see the $5.00 pencil skirts, shoes and other lovely clothes she wears. Anyway am not beefing her and am digressing, maybe it's her body, maybe she's actually all that, that she will wear a $5 something and it will look like she got it from Prada or something.

On witches, that was one of the topics of her show. I never beleived there were serious "native doctors, witchcraft etc" abroad o!. She invited satanists, white witches, black/dark witches, and some other woman that found Christ after all her witch craft.

These people sounded like destruction, the white ones meaning pure or good or none evil i suppose. Claimed and taught the audience a popular love portion, some candles , some blah blah.. Na wa o. They talked about spells and all. One of the dark witches claimed she had the last breath of a murderer! i nu kwa! And that they send bitch slaps to people who offend them or do something, they can send job losses, and general bad luck. I just couldn't believe it, just like in all our Nigerian films. The satanists claimed that they weren't devil worshippers but their "religion" promoted freedom and indulgence! na wa o. I don't know i just watched and it occured to me that these are the end times.

We as Christians would need to be stronger in faith and proud to proclaim the gospel any where. Can you believe that the ex witch now born again said she was ministered to in a parking lot at the cinemas? It goes to tell us that we should never be weary of preaching and spreading the word of God. We must stand up for what we believe and know. Imagine witches coming out straight with no fear to talk about witch craft and demons on national t.v!!!

Sisters and brothers let's not just be hearers of the word, let's be doers. Please find some time to minister to someone today. It could even be by a good gesture.

Peace to you all.

BTW My test/ interview is by 4.30pm.

Speechless

My dh just called to say his elder sister died yesterday. She was nothing more than 35, single and ready to mingle and that's it just like that gone.

I am actually wondering what i'm supposed to do. Call his mum to say sorry? what? my tummy hurts it's so sad.

Rest of my day is spoilt, my dh is going to cry like a baby, he loved her to bits. I don't know i'm confused.

I must be loved or something

Am sure i mentioned how i started to go for Church in the Home very close to my house on Sunday evenings. Ok i must confess i only went once, but it was wonderful. There were just 3 nice families attending, all upward mobile professionals, with one common interest GOD! i made them 3 and a half seeing we agreed that i would attend alone (i'll blog about this church issue when it becomes perfect). It was really nice i don't know why i never went again after the first time. I guess its because i find myself doing everything on Sunday. I have been praying for orderliness and time management.

OK to my uttermost embarrassment/ surprise on Sunday evening i was on my way to go get some stuff (at 7pm, what was i doing all weekend) then i saw a whole bunch of cars and people coming into my gate. I just said hi and kept walking. Then i hear SISTER A KEL!!!, guess who - the whole bunch all three families and their kids coming to my humble abode to see me, not good that i haven't been attending, but i felt so important, so loved, so missed, so everything, maybe i have found that bunch of correct friends i have been searching for. OMG it was awesome. I couldn't believe it. Even DH must have noticed cos he was just running around making sure they were comfortable, he even brought out our nice bottle of wine we had been saving for i wonder what!

We sat, chatted and generally talked about the word of God, they prayed, they blessed us and then they left. And they liked our house or so they said! My DH sat in all through, carrying the kids playing and being very social, i was dazed, normally he would either go away to get what i wanted to get earlier, or just sit there and obviously not be interested. Is this a sign of greater things to come. I kept remembering the very words that have encouraged and kept me going " have i not told you a Kel, that i will make all things beautiful in my own time".

Progress in my driving

Yesterday for the first time i was allowed to drive (for 2 minutes from the road to our house) "my" car that they have not even let me touch. I have been cruising in one old banger like that trying to become a master of the road. They claimed that one other brand new car which i am referring to as "my" car was bought for me. Am trying still haven't used gear 3 though. This weekend i'm going to try drive some distance. Fingers are crossed that i look back at this soon and laugh.

Just Curious

Yesterday my DH's friend called from the states to say she is getting married and wanted me to be an ashebi (is that how it's spelt?).Thing is i don't even know who she is and i honestly always thought ashebi was for single ladies so they can dance and dance and possibly be taken.

It's not the case in Lagos anyway so i have since started trying to change my mentality. I miss the east and life as a Londoner man! Lagos is just one........of a place,no offence but most people don't know and have never heard of the simple life here. (OK I'll leave that topic for next time.)

DH respects this friend and has told me so much about her,how she's a doctor, how she did this and did that. Am sure he'll be gutted if i try to discourage him from attending. Truth is she is his elder brother's ex girlfriend. I live in a modern world but sincerely don't think it'd be nice to go for her wedding, and she's here talking about ashebi!!!! I mean this elder brother isn't married yet. I don't know, just asking because i have heard from lots of people that the way i think sometimes is back ward!

Anyway i have serious styles in mind, for the 2 different types of reigning fabrics since i am suspecting it could be either of the two (Ankara - I'll make a lovely sleeveless 3 quarter length.................... and 2. some show through french lace dunno what it's called - the see through material would make flared sleeves and I'll have taffeta..............) No am not giving away my styles, seeing that DH is buying and paying i will gladly accept the material.

What would you do? encourage DH to buy the material and both of u go for the wedding. Or buy the material and end up not going or what? Just curious. And the wedding is next month in Benin!

Big Brother

BB Africa started yesterday, i stayed awake till 1am trying
to get to know the house mates, imagine! My dh swore the Nigerian girl was ibo,
trying to yab me somehow, anyway i just read from Bella Nijias blog that she's
not. Good.

They all seem ok to me, although i feel some of tem have lied
about their real ages. Can you imagine a man from Kenya saying he's 23. Anyway
amist all the chaos and trying to impress one another i liked the babe from
South Africa, she speaks dirty a bit but i looked past it cos shes only trying
to make sure she doesnt come across as jew at all. Besides taht i think i like
her, she is confident and will flow with everyone. Theres also a "fashion
designer" in the house kaaaa tailor come say na fashion designer. Ok no hating,
she looks pretty shaa and din't lie about her age. They all ended up
cooking some junk food our poor Nijia girl drank water all along, and my sister
kept saying she should rush the free apples, they cost N60.00 each here lol. I
think you should read about these people from Bella Nijias blog. I can give more
gossip later when am in the mood.

Mr I (my colleague that resigned last month) has helped the
other perosn left here get a job in the same organisation. So that makes me the
last man standing. O folam o (remaining me and my boss) 2 man office lol.

The Start of the weekend

First, my friend i was meant to go with, miscarriaged her baby, she was 27 weeks already. Anyway so am back to going in December. It's always fun to go with people so anyone intrested should be planning too.



Then for all you Nigerians with a mind for good investments, Access Bank shares are being sold now. I can't really say much but i know Zenith sold for N16 before and are now worth N66.00.


Nothing much has been happening to me. I succeeded in watching seasons 1 - 6 of 24 in 2 weekends, and desperate housewives. Thanks to my dh, we watched it like it was going out of fashion.

Jacobs Cross is back on Mnet wow, but this season seems very boring, i don't know why the whole programme feels funny to me now.

Did i mention i started my swimming lessons? well i can float now, so this weekend i hope to start moving like a fish in water. And yes i have been driving well well no bashes, no more soooo scared but i always have someone in the car.





Hope you guys have a fun filled weekend!